I love it here!!!!! I think that I am supposed to be getting homesick some time soon, but I don't think that it's possible. There always seems
like there is something to do, somewhere to go. I live in Taipei so it's a big
city. I've never lived in a city like this before and before I came here I
didn't know what to expect. I thought that maybe it would always be really loud
with an unbearable stench reeking around every corner with mice and rats
crawling the streets; and although I did see a mouse run under a food stand
yesterday there is hardly any noise and there is virtually no stench.
It is so easy to get around, if someone hogtied me, threw
me in the back of their trunk, drove around the city 10 times, and dropped
me off on a random alleyway, it would take me 2 hours to get home, maybe 3
if I had to un-hogtie myself. Now I'm not saying that that's very common in
Taipei but the point is, its very easy to find your way around, and you
never have a problem finding transportation.
The one problem here that I am encountering that I didn't
anticipate as much was that everyone speaks English. We had a Rotary Inbound
Orientation meeting with over 60 kids from over 12 different nations and
they spoke English the entire time. My whole family except for my host
grandparents speak English, half my classmates in school speak fluent
English. It's very hard to keep yourself away from English Influences; but I
think that I am finally getting across to everyone that I "DON'T" want them
to speak English. Many of them think that they are helping me out by
speaking English to me when in reality it's only hindering my grasp of
Chinese. I think soon they will stop speaking to me in English for good,
mostly they speak to me in Chinese but when I don't get what they say, they
get frustrated so they just say it in English which I don't want them to do.
I told them if its really, really important then they can say it in English,
otherwise just say it in Chinese; the problem is I think their grasp of what
is important is different then my grasp, their grasp is asking me if I have
eaten yet, mine is if the whole building is on fire and if I don't jump off
the fifth floor of the building on to a miniature trampoline held by some
firefighters then I'm going to die.
I've been in Taiwan for over two weeks and despite the
English Influence when I look at the improvement I have made learning
Chinese, it's incredible. It feels like every day I only learn a little bit
of Chinese, but when you add it together it turns out to be a lot. I can get
in a cab, tell the driver where I want to go, and then hold about a 30
second conversation with him before he starts to ramble on in Chinese and
then I have no clue what he is saying. 30 seconds doesn't sound like much,
but then again I've only been here for a little over 2 weeks so by the time
I leave I'm sure I'll have no problem holding a 30 minute conversation with
the cab driver.
The people here are really nice. There are four exchange
students going to my school and it seems like we are the stars of the
school. I'll have people say hi to me and calling out my name who I don't
even recognize. My first day of school was a really good day, I made friends
really fast and for some reason they were addicted to applauding me. The
first day of school I said a few words in Chinese and they all started to
clap thinking that it was the most amazing thing that an America spoke some
Chinese. Then another time they showed me a magic trick with a deck of cards
and then they asked me to do a trick, and it just so happens that I knew
one, so I showed them the trick and they started to clap again. They still
do that, clap when I do something right. It's a little different getting all
the attention, I'm not used to people clapping when I show a magic trick.
Life here is fun and it will only get better. Chinese is a
very hard language to learn but I'm up for the Challenge. I'll let you know
once I've convinced everyone to stop speaking to me in English, and I'll
keep you updated on life in Taiwan, and soon I will give you some pictures
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I would like to tell you about my day today. This is not an
uncommon day for an exchange student living in Taiwan, in fact days like this
happen all the time, each day is its own adventure, and at each day's end
there's always something unique to talk about. Today I woke up at six in the
morning. I was late. I was out the door by 6:10am, usually my host mom would
stuff me with as much food as I'd ever want to eat in my life at the breakfast
table, but today was different because I was going to school on a Saturday and
was the only one up in my house.
The reason why I was going to school on Saturday is
because it was our school anniversary. In celebration of our school's
anniversary, we get to go to school on a Saturday (which is ok because all
we did was have fun). I ran to the MRT (the train/subway system) because I
didn't want to be late. It took me five minutes and I had to run there going
downhill, uphill, through traffic. I also had to run by a stray dog who was
giving me the sad, poor puppy dog eyes look without giving him the proper
love and attention a dog should have, all for the sake of being on time to
school. I got to the MRT station, and right before I entered the MRT station
I observed the MRT leaving. "Great," I thought to myself, "now I have to
wait another ten minutes before the next one will leave. . I then waited
the ten minutes for the MRT to go, and finally it left and I was on my way
to school.
Forty five minutes later, and six chapters read from my
bible later, I arrived at my station which I needed to get off at. I started
at the station called Dansuia and arrived at the station Gongguan. I
proceeded to walk out of the MRT station and to the bus stop which is
conveniently located right outside the station. I waited there for about ten
minutes or so and bus number one came, my bus. I was excited because
according to my watch I had another fifteen minutes to get to school and the
bus usually takes around ten to fifteen minutes to get there. I was going to
be on time. I was waiting for my turn to get on the bus as I began to see
how many people there were on the bus and how there were even more people
trying to get on it. After everyone crammed themselves onto the bus there
were four people left who for the life of them there was no possible way
they could fit on that bus. I was one of them.
After all that effort I went through, having to run for
five minutes straight (only stopping once to tie my shoe), and after running
by that poor helpless dog who just needed a friend, I was going to be late
for school. The day before, my classmates told me that I needed to be there
at 7:30am. It was 7:30am when the second bus came, and this time there was
virtually nobody on the bus, and only a few of us got onto the bus. I was
even able to have a seat to myself, which is a very rare occurrence. Ten to
fifteen minutes later I arrived at my school. I walked to the back entrance
of my school (which was only a good twenty feet away from the bus stop where
I got off) and was thinking to myself, "Please be open". And when I got
there, "Rats" it was closed. And through the bars of the back entrance I
could see nearly the whole school, lined up in military like fashion,
grouped by their classes, scattered over our whole track and field fields
that we have, waiting the final few moments for the last stragglers to
arrive before they begin their ceremony.
I was thinking to myself how stupid it is for a school to
have a back entrance that they only bother to keep open for kids who happen
to make it to school on time, when I found another gate which is always shut
except on occasions when cars from the underground parking come out and this
was one of those times. I wasn't going to have to walk to the complete other
side of the school to use the front entrance, only to walk back to the same
side of the school I was just at. I walked by the gate, went to the grassy
area where all the classes were lined up, and with my 20/20 vision began to
scout out the dozens of classes trying to distinguish between the hundreds
of unfamiliar Asian faces and the familiar ones that are my good friends and
classmates. (You should know that in Taiwan you just have one class that you
spend all day with and that class becomes your family and that family has
pride of its class and truly believes that their class is better then every
other class in the school.) Finding my class mates was much easier then I
thought it would be. Usually everyone wears the same color uniform every
day, and most people only wore that same uniform today but our class with
its wonderful sense of class pride gave everyone the bright color yellow
T-shirts that the class leaders had designed and handed out the day before.
The T-Shirt made no sense at all (as most Taiwanese shirts with any English
on them don't), but the one thing that did make sense on the shirt was Class
03. Our class number is room number 103 and with that number comes the right
to tell everyone else how class 103 is better then any other class in the
school. So picking out the kids with the yellow shirts as opposed to light
purple, green, and blue was pretty easy. They happened to be the only class
still walking to where they were supposed to be and walking very close by to
where I was standing searching out for where they might be. Then I hear many
people calling from behind me, "Alex." (half the time they call you in your
English name, and half the time they call you your Chinese name, I guess it
just depends on what mood they’re in).
I discovered my class and walked with them to where we
were supposed to be and on the way there I noticed that everyone in my class
had on their yellow T-Shirts. They also had on their sweatshirts, half way
zipped down. One of my classmates asked me where my sweatshirt was. I began
to get worried, thinking that we were all supposed to look exactly the same
and I was the oddball out who forgot his sweatshirt at home and is now
making the whole class look less unified by not looking like everyone else.
Then one of my classmates said something like this "Ni leng bu leng" which
basically means "Are you cold?" I realized that they really don't care if we
look unified or not, they are just concerned about my well being and think
that I am cold. The temperature was the perfect temperature. It was by no
means too cold and having the option to put on a sweater or not I would have
gladly declined, but to everyone else in the school it seemed to be a brutal
winter in which the only way to survive is to wear the school given
sweatshirts. Every day, my host mom makes me take my sweater to school even
though I usually only use it as a pillow. One morning a few days ago I came
down to breakfast not even considering that it might be a tad bit chilly and
found both my host parents wearing a sweater. They were startled that I
wasn't wearing a sweater too, and asked me if I were cold and I told them
no. It seemed to boggle their mind (sorry for getting off topic).
Anyway, I was in the first row of our three lines group by
our class as the ceremony began. Every once in a while the school will have
a ceremony where the whole school stands and listens to people speak up on
an outside stage that they have. The last time we had this ceremony it was
more like a dance off, and there were a good amount of kids who were trying
to become class president, and in turn the only way to win votes in their
mind was to convince everyone that they were the best dancer or performer.
It turned out to be more like a talent show where half the people blast
American music that they don't know any of the words to (and in most cases
should stay that way) and then attempt to dance. Some dancing was very good,
some not so good, but it was all fun. Then there were some kids who sang
songs, others did little comedy skits and it was all fun except for the part
that you had to stand in exactly the same place for 30 minutes not being
able to move around. But this ceremony was a little different.
First we listened to the principal of our school talk for
fifteen minutes. I had no idea what he was talking about and half the people
around me didn't know what he was talking about also, not because they can't
understand him like me, but because they were too busy talking and not
paying attention to pay attention. Near the end of the ceremony things began
to spice up a little bit because class 102 performed a cheer leading dance
for us. About a month ago every class in our grade began to practice cheer
leading dances. This is where everyone in your class that you could not
imagine waving around pompoms to loud American music while dancing dances
that you only see on pop music videos does, including all of the guys. I'm
pretty sure that in America most guys might have a second thought about
listening to the girls in their class when they tell them to wave around
pompoms while doing a dance that all five year old girls dream of imitating,
and doing the dance to the song "I'm a Barbie Girl". But for some cultural
difference that still leaves me in amazement to this day, not only do the
guys willingly perform this act but they perform it with enthusiasm and with
a complete lack of knowledge that nearly everywhere else in the world
(America and Europe for sure) it is considered a very feminine thing to do.
I find it funny and if I had the option to I would have been more then happy
to consider the possibility of joining them in their cheerleading ritual.
Unfortunately to my loss the Rotary has all the exchange students gone after
school three days a week and that's when the classes practice so I was
unable to support class 103 except by filming them on the day of their
performance.
The performance was about a week ago and there were
fourteen classes in all and every class had its unique performance with its
own style, song, and its dance steps that the students came up with
themselves. It really was amazing. I never knew that fourteen Taiwanese
classes that have had nearly no experience dancing except for the few weeks
they had to practice this dance could dance and cheerlead better then
American cheerleaders. They were all very talented and choreographed the
dance very well. Class 102 ended up winning first place and since they won
first place they ended up being able to dance for us at the ceremony today.
So they danced and did the dance very well and then afterwards all the
classes were dismissed to go to their own classrooms.
We went back to our classroom and began to get ready. "Get
ready for what?" you might ask; well, you see today is not a normal day of
school. Every class in the school prepared whatever they desired to eat and
drink so that they could sell the food and the drink. Everyone was allowed
to invite who ever they wanted to, to come and buy food and drinks and eat
and just have a good time. There were games in some classrooms. In our
classroom we had a Wii, in other classrooms there were X-box's and some
classrooms had messy games you could play while others had small mini games
you could win prizes playing. It was a blast.
After setting up the food and the drink some of our
classmates would stay in the room to sell its goods, while the others went
out to have a good time and to buy whatever it is that they wished to buy.
Everyone had all kinds of foods, sushi, tofu, chicken, sausages, fried ice
cream, and foods you've never seen before. They also had all kinds of teas
to drink and many sodas including a soda drink that they put a little bit of
dry ice in your cup so that tons of bubbles are coming up through the soda.
I walked through the halls in my school (the halls are
more like large balcony pathways and I'm usually walking the 4th floor where
my class is) and while I'm walking through them, it would not be uncommon
for people to use every effort known to salesmen everywhere to try to get me
to buy whatever it is that they want me to buy. These efforts included
pestering, pleading, yelling (in a nice forceful kind of way), pushing me,
shoving food into my face, and telling me how cheap it is. I would have to
constantly say "Bu Yao, Wo Bu Yao, Bu Yao," in English, "Don't want, I don't
want, don't want." Usually when I say this it only results in them resorting
to a new sales method.
At about one o'clock everything had died down and the last
little bit of food and drinks were being sold at a smaller price and
everyone was cleaning up their class room. Every class room is tiled and
right outside the door is a drain. Everyone helped move all the desks out of
the classroom and then we proceeded to dump gallons of water in our
classroom, sprinkle powdered soap on the water and begin to scrub the floors
with all the scrubbing sticks we could find. Every day twice a day every
class for fifteen minutes, spends the time cleaning their classroom. Usually
what they do is take out the trash cans, mop the floors in between the desks
and scrub the windows. Today was full blown cleaning and the whole process
took about an hour. After the cleaning was done we took some pictures and
then hung around our room for another fifteen or twenty minutes.
A group of us decided to go into the part of town where
there were lots of shopping areas and went on our way. When we took the bus
and arrived we had walked for nearly five minutes when we came to the last
place I expected for us to go, McDonalds. We didn't go there to eat, most of
us were already full from all the food we ate at our celebration and didn't
want to gorge ourselves with a wonderfully healthy Big Mac. The McDonalds
was huge and had a second floor underneath the first one. When we went down
to the second floor it appeared that it was not only a McDonalds but also
where people go to practice their life's hobby. I found a group of about
seven or eight guys who were doing nothing but solving Rubik's Cubes, there
was also a miniature haunted house and a couple of kids running around with
glow in the dark masks as they were trying to scare people (I still don't
know if they were hired by McDonalds to do that or if its just a pastime for
them). We then found ourselves a large corner because there were about
fifteen of us and began to talk while a few of us ate small snacks from
McDonalds and just had a good time.
A little while passed and everyone decided to play a game.
I didn't understand the game at first and didn't participate but watched
them all as they played. After a while someone explained the game to me and
the game goes like this: someone has a deck of cards, but takes out each
number two all the way up to the Ace, and then passes it out to everyone and
who ever has the King gets to pick one or two or three people by calling out
different numbers from the deck and who ever gets picked has to do what they
tell them to do. The things weren't that hard to do. One time they had to
lick a lot of pepper onto their tongue and another time someone had to sing
a song, but the thing which really confused me was one dare which in America
wouldn't be considered a dare at all. It was that sometimes when two people
were picked to do a dare the guy and the girl would have to hug each other.
I was thinking to myself, "OK, so where does the dare come in," but then I
realized that in the two months I've been going to school here I had never
seen a guy and a girl hug.
Here in Taiwan its not normal for a guy and a girl to hug
unless they are going out with each other. The dare for them was really a
dare, and was really a nerve-wracking experience in which they had to hug
the opposite sex and all while ten cameras were ready to take a picture
right when they had gotten up the guts to hug each other. I then realized in
that moment why my host sisters had a look of horror on their faces the
first time I met them and gave them each a hug. How things work here is that
girls are a lot more affectionate towards other girls then in the United
States and guys are a lot more affectionate towards other guys but when it
comes to girls and guys showing affection towards each other, that's
crossing the line.
After we spent our socializing hour in McDonalds a lot of
us had to go, but there was a group of about five of us who stayed together
and we went shopping down to many local shops. I was looking for Christmas
gifts and they were trying to help me find them and for about an hour we did
this and it seemed like the goal of every one in our little company was to
find the Christmas gifts I was wanting. As an exchange student in Taiwan
everyone gives you extra attention and treats you like royalty. Some
exchange students think they treat us like royalty while others think they
treat us like four year olds. I like to think of it as a four year old with
royal blood. Really I think all it is, is a cultural difference - to many of
the exchange students it seems like they are treating you like you’re a
child, but really they are just trying to be nice.
For instance; my host mom gave me a bowl of soup the other
day that had a lid on it and I was about to open the lid when she quickly
shoved my hands away told me that the soup was hot and then herself opened
the lid. In another instance my host dad has multiple times taken my
chopsticks out of my hand if he thinks that I am taking too little of some
food in the dishes that are in front of us at the dinner table and then will
scoop as much as he possibly can of whatever food it is that I chose to only
take a little of, and slap it on my plate as messily and quickly as
possible. At first these things used to bother me, but now I don't really
care anymore. I just go with the flow. The people here want to make you
happy and it seems like they will do anything for you. It’s very different
from the United States.
After we were done shopping we went to a place to eat and
met up with about five other students from our school. We ate our food which
was very good (chicken, rice, vegetables, soup, with green tea to drink).
Both before and after I ate, I taught one of my good friends how to play
chess because there was conveniently a chess set in the restaurant. He
learned how to play very easily and was very smart. We played a few games
and many of the games were very close. After dinner I walked to the MRT
station with four other guys from my class, two of the guys were going one
way on the line and the other guy and myself were going another way. When
the MRT came we said goodbye and got on the train and it wasn't as crowded
as it usually was and I usually never get a seat on the way back but there
was one seat available. Normally I would just allow someone else to take it
but since my friend was with me he kept on insisting that I take the seat
and so finally I took the seat reluctantly. We talked some and I had him
listen to my IPOD, every song him saying that he loved the song and thought
it was awesome and then he had to leave and get off at his stop while I kept
on going. I stayed in my seat not doing much except looking out the window
every once in a while.
Then after a little bit there was a woman who sat next to
me, and I was debating with myself whether to take out my camera and (which
has a video setting on it) start video taping while I begin a conversation
with the woman next to me, just to see what would happen. I then decided
that I wasn't really in the mood to get pepper sprayed in my eye and decided
she probably wasn't the talking to a foreigner type anyway. As I was
thinking this my phone rang and I answered it and it was my host dad. I
talked to him, telling him where I was and that I wasn't hungry and no I
didn't want him to pick me anything up to eat and then I hung up. I mostly
talked to him in Chinese and the women next to me saw that I knew some
Chinese and so a few minutes went by and she struck up a conversation with
me.
We talked, she knew a good amount of English so we talked
in Chinglish or Engease or what ever you would like to call it for about
fifteen minutes or so. She talked about how she was a bookkeeper and how bad
her English was even though it really was good and I talked about where I
went to school, how long I was staying here in Taiwan and how long I've
already been here. It was great, in fifteen minutes I just made a new friend
with someone I never had met before.
After I get off the MRT station, I took the long walk
home. It took me about five minutes to run to the MRT station, but walking
is at least fifteen minutes. I walked home, went in the door to my house and
my father was sitting watching TV and he asked me a few questions about my
day and then informed me that tomorrow I am going to play basketball with my
host sister's schoolmate who I have never met before. He said that he was
going to give me a call on my cell phone to tell me what time to meet him to
play basketball. Well, for most people that would be out of the ordinary but
for an exchange student living in Taiwan, you expect nothing less.
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The time is really getting close for me to head home. When I go
home I will miss a lot of things, I will miss the food, miss seeing Taipei 101
(biggest building in the world), miss riding buses and trains every where I go
and miss speaking Chinese all day; but I think the thing that I will miss the
most are the friends that I have made here in Taiwan. I have made friends from
all over the world, Germany, France, Brazil, Sweden, Denmark, Austria, Japan and
so much more. I find it so fascinating that even though we come from all over
the world with different cultures and ideas we still make great friends and find
that we may have just as much in common as anyone from our own country. I'm
finding that I am wishing to bring anyone and everyone home with me but of
course that would be impossible.
Being an exchange student is a gift, one of the
greatest gifts anyone could receive but as the year comes to a close many feel
it also comes with a curse. We spend a whole year with these people, we talk to
them, get to know them, become great friends with them even view them as family;
but then you realize that you have to go, you have to go back to your own
country and leave them all behind, many of whom you may never see again - that is
the curse that comes with the gift.
People have said that the homesickness you
get when you leave the United States go to another country is not as bad as the
homesickness when you leave the country you've spent a year in and come back to
the United States. Even though I have not left Taiwan yet, I believe this to be
true and it may be different with every student but I believe when most people
are homesick it's not so much the country itself that they are homesick about,
but the people in the country. When you leave America to go out to another
country you are going with the knowledge that you will be back in 1 years time,
when you leave the country you were in to go back to America you don't know when
you will be back or if you will ever see your friends again. If there are
students out there reading this that are preparing to go out on an exchange then
I don't mean to frighten you by this, it's only the truth of an exchange. Even
though the gift of an exchange is carried by the curse of leaving it, that would
be no reason to not accept the exchange. I am so thankful to Rotary and everyone
for this experience, if I could go back in time a year I wouldn't change a
thing.
I believe a huge question for most upcoming exchange
students is "How long does it take to become fluent"? I know that was a
question I asked many people many times and always got a variety of answers.
I can not speak for the other exchange students going to other countries but
for myself learning Chinese I can not pick a specific point in time which I
say "now I'm fluent". For me it was very gradual, first it started out very,
very slow, then it picked up the pace and I learned more, then time went by
and I was able to learn faster and faster and faster. When you are first
starting to learn a language your brain is not used to the language at all
so it only makes sense that it will be very difficult to learn but as time
goes by your brain starts to get used to the language and it then becomes
much easier to learn more faster. What people consider fluent is an opinion,
some would consider a 3 year old fluent in its language while others would
consider a 5 year old, it totally depends on what you consider to be fluent.
For me, I wrote in my diary at the beginning of the exchange saying that if
I can hold onto a 30 minute conversation then I will consider myself to be
fluent; now I can go on for hours speaking Chinese. There are still phrases
I don't know, words I wonder what it means and many times when people are
talking to each other I don't understand what they are talking about but all
in all I consider myself fluent in Chinese.
I wish I could tell you all about Taiwan, I wish I really
could tell you all that it really is and what the people are like and how
they live. They say a picture is worth a thousand words, I would have to
show you a year's worth of video in order for you to really understand
Taiwan for all that it is. Before I came to Taiwan I tried to imagine what
Taiwan is like, I read up on Taiwan, saw pictures of Taiwan and studied the
language before I left but none of that could even give me a slight glimpse
of what Taiwan really is. I suggest that if you want to know about Taiwan
then go to Taiwan. Don't just read up on it or even just read journals about
students who have been there. Taiwan is a place to see and the Taiwanese are
a people you need to talk to.
Xie Xie Da Jia, Wo Drede Taiwan hun hao han Wo Ai Taiwan
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